For the last 6 weeks, we’ve been talking about self care and how to incorporate it into our busy lives as new moms.
Week 1: I defined self care as a decision you make for yourself that makes you feel good, either physically, spiritually, or emotionally feel good. I asked that you make 5 self care decisions in the next week. These decisions don’t have to be big ones, but rather small changes. Maybe you take time to finish your cup of coffee while it’s still hot instead of trying to get chores done while drinking it. Or, maybe you turn off the notifications on your phone for part of the day. Just small changes to help keep your pitcher full.
Week 2: I looked at the guilt aspect of self care. Why do we feel guilty for taking care of ourselves? You don’t tell your friend (or even your kids!) to forgo taking care of themselves. I urged us all to put aside the guilt, and to continue making small changes in our routine to better take care of ourselves. One decision a day that makes you feel good.
Week 3: I added to the definition of self care, self care is making a decision that feels good AND energizes you. This can be spiritual, emotional, or physical energy. I also discussed the importance of getting outside the house. Getting outside of the house can do wonders, even if it’s just a trip to the grocery story to get bananas (been there, done that). Just getting out gives you a purpose, a reason to get dressed, and maybe even some lively banter with a cashier.
Week 4: You can’t talk about self care without talking about relationships. There are two types of relationships: ones that are nurturing to you and your family, and those that aren’t. Sometimes, you can easily limit your interaction with individuals that aren’t nurturing. Sometimes, you can’t. So, this week, a gentle reminder that setting up limitations and boundaries on some relationships may be needed at this point in your life. You don’t have to be everything to everyone, you need to be everything to a select few during your early motherhood journey, AND THAT’S OK. In addition to one decision a day that energizes you (bonus points if it gets you out of the house), I urged us all to look at the relationships in our lives and decide if limitations or boundaries need to be put into place so we can better take care of ourselves.
Week 5: This week I talk about the relationships that ARE nurturing (opposite of last week). When you are in the thick of early motherhood (or any trying time, really), it’s easy to forget to pay attention to those that are closest to you. And, I’m a firm believer that doing good for others (who appreciate it), will make you feel better, too. So, this week I asked in addition to making time for ourselves, we make a little extra time for someone special to us. Just give a little extra effort to one person that you love.
That brings us to this week, Week 6. I hope that you all learned a little about yourself, the relationships in your life, and what energizes you. I also hope that after 6 weeks of make one decision a day for yourself, that you continue this (maybe some are now incorporated into your routine by now!).
It’s important to take care of ourselves. If we don’t take care of ourselves, how can we expect to take care of anyone else?
Practice self care & some well-deserved self love daily.